Listening to marriage sealing ordinances

 Listening to what is actually said…

 Contrary to common phraseology, a husband and wife are not "sealed to each other", or “sealed together”. Rather, in that marriage ceremony specific blessings are promised and “sealed” equally upon the husband and upon the wife, which blessings each one is to receive as they individually continue in their personal, faithfulness disciples of Jesus Christ, keeping the holy promises (covenants to follow the teachings of Christ) that they have previously made. 

Temple marriage sealings are not about with whom you will, or will not “live together forever”.   In the life after this one, the same sociality (quality of social interaction) that exists among us in this life, will continue to exist (Doc & Cov130:2) among family members, friends, etc. etc... 

So if it's not about who you will be with, what is it? When you listen, you will find that, rather than who gets to be with whom, sealing in a temple marriage is, in reality, about your personal commitments to become the kind of disciples you may become; radiantly full of faith, hope and charity. And they are about your desires to create, with the Lord’s grace and mercy, a marriage full of faith hope and charity, and which encompasses the principles of His gospel that you have previously promised and covenanted to live.  

The words of temple marriage sealing express how much the Lord desires to help and bless you in those commitments and desires, both individually and as a couple, both now and in the future. 

The sealing words are about what He is entrusting you with, and they are about who and what the Lord is inviting you to faithfully become, and what he may trust you with in the future as you continue to follow Him, strive to live the promises you have made to Him, receive His amazing grace, and continue to grow in faith in Him, and in hope in Him, and in loving as He does. 

They are about the abilities and blessings he will seal upon you as you, as His disciples, and through that grace, mercy and power to heal and bless, become able to bear that trust He has placed in you. Becoming that kind of son or daughter of God is a lifelong and beyond journey, and brings good blessings as well as sobering responsibilities.

Joseph Fielding Smith called temple marriage "the crowning ordinance", but it's not "crowning" as in "having arrived at the pinnacle". It's more like, "the final, top, ordinance and covenant for which keeping all the other covenants you've made with God helps to prepare you". When you are married in the temple, you haven't arrived.  You've just begun a whole new phase of the journey.