I have learned or relearned recently that I am at my best when I am fully aware of and able to articulate what I know and wish for AND when I am highly attuned to the reality of the feelings and words of a person with whom I am interacting, without chafing at them.
If I do the first without the second I tend towards selfishness or insensitivity. If I do the second without the first I can tend to feel taken for granted and to feel disconnected and/or frustrated.
But when I do both together, I am more likely to feel aware, and at peace within, and more connected. And my ability to act with purpose and clarity increases.
I should remember that.