Similarly, when you direct should statements towards others it increases your sense of dissatisfaction and frustration. Thinking to yourself "he really should stop typing and pay attention to what is being said" will invariably increase your dissatisfaction and give room in your mind for further statements of resentment of the other person and discouragement about creating what you want to happen. (One of the most common ones to follow this are the "always" and "never" thoughts that are part of cognitive distortion #1.)
Should statements can generate a lot of unnecessary turmoil in your daily life and actually decrease your progress towards becoming the sort of charitable, loving, patient person that you
Ultimately, you have to realize what God realizes; that people, including yourself, are imperfect and make mistakes and that He expects that. It's part of the plan. And the thing to do instead is to expect the imperfections of reality gracefully, respond wisely to them when you encounter them, and love and appreciate in spite of them, not reduce your reaction to a bunch of frustrating "shoulds".